Veteran comedian, actress and talk show host Whoopi Goldberg is known for her oustpoken personality, which is more than likely what prompted her to join the ABC daytime talk show The View as one of its co-hosts. Now, that outspoken personality and voice is speaking loud and clear in her book, If Someone Says You Complete Me, Run!; and is telling couples, if you're going to cheat, do it with discretion.
According to EUR, Goldberg has a new book out and she's serving up all types of relationship advice and tips for remaining happy and/or content in your relationship. According to the site, Goldberg has been married and divorced on three different occasions and has decided to put all of her years of learning what doesn't work and what not to do in a relationship or marriage, all into one book, where even the title acts as words of wisdom from the comedian.
The 59-year-old says this book is specifically for the ladies, according to The Root, and breaks the rules as to what traditional relationship books and experts would advise married and single women to do to finally get the proposal and a happy life. One of the suggestions from Whoopi's Big Book of Relationships is to be firm on your standards.
The NY Post reported brief excerpts from the book in which Goldberg suggests that women not bend on their standards -- establish what the deal breakers are and stick with them. "There are probably a million things you don't want," the comedian wrote. "Be clear and specific. Don't wait until the honeymoon to figure it out . . . That way, you won't let chemistry or attraction or lust or wishful thinking get you into a relationship that you know isn't right for you."
She goes on to speak about casual sex and cheating, stating, "There's nothing wrong with a booty call, because sometimes you just want to hit it and run" and she believes cheating can work for couples if you cheat with the right person, possibly someone who has something to lose. "Sometimes in a relationship, people can't always get what they need, and if you have reputable people you can turn to in order to get what you need, I say go for it," she wrote. "It is a whole lot better than being frustrated and angry at the person you love."
The New York Post also shares Goldberg's thoughts on pre-nups, sharing secrets, and not feeling as attractive as you age. The Ghost actress believes that pre-nups are an "act of love" that clearly identifies what's what in a relationship and allows for both parties to feel at ease knowing that someone is not just in the relationship for the money. She advises not to tell all of your secrets too soon in your relationship, but to wait for more than two years just to see if the relationship will last. And lastly, the site shared her beliefs on aging. In the book she explained, "Women are afraid that once they get older, men will no longer find them attractive," Goldberg revealed in the excerpt. That there's some kind of expiration date on them. The truth of the matter is you never know who is going to find you attractive."
